Divorce the pattern, not the person!!

Both you and your spouse have likely absorbed other people’s garbage throughout your life (and even throughout your day!)

Sometimes you may find yourself dumping that garbage on your spouse or having it dumped on you from them!

When this happens it might launch you back into one of many unhealthy patterns that have developed in your marriage.

I’ve had moments in my marriage when we’ve started talking about grocery shopping for the week and ended up in a fight that made us wonder how we could stay married to each other...

So where do you go from there??
Try taking a step (or 20) back and disconnect from the mess! I’ve often prayed, “Lord, I disconnect from any stuff that is not aligned with you in my husband and I ask that you disconnect my husband from any garbage coming out of me in Jesus name!”

This helps us regroup and identify the pattern we need to divorce (not the person!!)

Sometimes the pattern is in the relationship and sometimes it’s a pattern of thinking that’s developed in my mind that is unproductive and blocks insight.

Here is where you can begin to renounce unhealthy and ungodly thoughts and patterns and ask God what He wants you to replace them with. And don’t forget to act on what He tells you!!